Patriarchy  

  • A social, political and cultural system featuring:

    • Oppressive and limiting gender roles

    • Male privilege

    • Sexual phobias and shame

    • Sexual assault and harassment

  • Patriarchal beliefs can be perpetuated by women as well as men

  • The Patriarchy hurts men as well as women

  • Sexism

    • Prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination on the basis of sex

    • Three layers: Sexist system, sexist people, sexist actions.

    • Often hides under the banner of equality (like being colorblind)

  • Rape Culture

    • Trivializing or normalizing sexual assault and abuse.

      • Victim-blaming (“What was she wearing”?)

      • Rape as a women’s issue (Rather than a man’s issue)

  • Toxic Masculinity

    • The normative application of a conception of the male ideal as violent, unemotional, and sexually unaccountable

  • Sexual Misconduct:

    • Sexual Harassment

      • Not a federal crime

      • It’s always illegal to sexually harass in school, at work or in military

        • It’s either “quid pro quo” or creating a “hostile environment”

      • Catcalling is not always illegal: Definitions vary state to state

        • In California, lewd comments are a misdemeanor

    • Sexual Assault

      • Sexual contact or behavior that occurs without consent

        • Consent = Absence of “No”

        • Affirmative Consent = presence of “Yes”

        • Enthusiastic Consent = “Anything less than ‘Fuck yes’ is a “no.”

      • Criminal under federal law but must involve physical contact

      • Criminal in all states but definitions and statutes vary by state

        • Doesn’t have to be intentional to have occurred

        • Consent can’t be present if intoxication, psychological manipulation or emotional coercion is involved

  • Sex/Gender/Sexuality

    • Sex

      • Assigned at birth: “Male” or “Female” or “Intersex”

      • Based on physical traits: chromosomes (XX/XY), hormones (estrogen/testosterone), gonads (ovaries, testicles), reproductive units (egg/sperm), anatomy (vagina, penis)

      • Transsexual: Altered body (usually FTM or MTF with surgery/hormones)

    • Gender

      • What society assigns us based on our physical traits: “Man” or “Woman”

      • Gender Identity

        • How we personally feel inside

        • Cis-gender: Gender identity matches birth sex

        • Genderqueer: Gender identity does not match birth sex

          • 51 possibilities: Transgender (from one to another), Androgyne (both), Neutrois (Neither), Two-Spirit (third)

        • Gender Presentation / Gender Expression

          • How a person dresses, acts, behaves (butch, femme, etc)

    • Sexual Identity / Orientation

      • Who a person is attracted to

      • Heterosexual or Queer: homosexual, bisexual, asexual, etc.

    • Non-normative sexual lifestyles

      • Polyamory, BDSM, Swinging, nudist, etc.

  • Values Signaling / Virtue Signaling

    • “Showing off about showing up.”

    • AKA Ally Performance / Ally Theater / White Knighting

    • The conspicuous expression of moral values done primarily with the intent of enhancing one’s own standing within a social group

    • Self-licensing

      • When our perceived goodness makes us more likely to act immorally

      • “Wokeness creating the conditions for ignorance”

  • Emotional labor

    • The responsibility for managing feelings and conversations in a relationship

    • The work of educating other people about your oppression

  • Gaslighting

    • Manipulating someone into questioning their own sanity.

    • Acting as if a person’s experiences didn’t happen. (“Are you sure you’re not just being overly sensitive?”)


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