Patriarchy   

  • A social, political and cultural system featuring:

    • Oppressive and limiting gender roles

    • Gender-based privilege: Primarily Male

    • Sexual phobias and shame

    • Sexual assault and harassment

  • Patriarchal beliefs can be perpetuated by women and femmes as well as men

  • The Patriarchy hurts men as well as women and femmes

  • Sexism

    • Prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination on the basis of sex

    • Sexist actions by people who are not consciously sexist are still sexist!

  • Rape Culture

    • Trivializing or normalizing sexual assault and abuse.

      • Victim-blaming (“What was she wearing”?)

      • Rape as a women’s issue (Rather than a man’s)

  • Toxic Masculinity

    • The normative application of a conception of the male ideal as violent, unemotional, and sexually unaccountable

  • Sexual Misconduct:

    • Sexual Harassment

      • Legal definition:

        • Creating a hostile environment

        • Asking for sex in exchange for something else

        • Catcalling, lewd comments or gestures, indecent exposure, stalking, persistent sexual advances, unwanted touching

      • Sexual Assault

      • Sexual contact or behavior that occurs without consent

        • Consent = Absence of “No”

        • Affirmative Consent = presence of “Yes”

        • Enthusiastic Consent = “Anything less than ‘Fuck yes’ is a “no.”

        • In California, consent cannot be present if intoxication, psychological manipulation or emotional coercion is involved

      • Criminal under federal law but must involve physical contact

      • Criminal in all states but definitions and statutes vary by state

      • Doesn’t have to be intentional to have occurred

  • Sex/Gender/Sexuality

    • Sex

      • Assigned at birth: “Male” or “Female” or “Intersex”

      • Based on physical traits: chromosomes (XX/XY), hormones (estrogen/testosterone), gonads (ovaries, testicles), reproductive units (egg/sperm), anatomy (vagina, penis)

      • Transsexual:

        • Altered body (usually FTM or MTF with surgery/hormones)

    • Gender

      • What society assigns us: “Man” or “Woman”

      • Many possible Gender Identities:

        • Cis-gender: Gender identity matches birth sex

        • Gender Non-Conforming, including:

          • Genderqueer: Gender identity does not match birth sex; Transgender (from one to another), Androgyne (In between), Neutrois (Neither), Aporagender (third); Two Spirit (Native American, spiritual)

      • Gender Presentation / Gender Expression

        • How a person dresses, acts, behaves (butch, femme, etc)

    • Sexual Identity / Orientation

      • Who a person is attracted to

      • Heterosexual or Queer: homosexual, bisexual, asexual, etc.

    • Sexual lifestyles

      • Polyamorous, BDSM, Leather, Swinging, nudist, etc.

  • Values Signaling / Virtue Signaling

    • “Showing off about showing up.” (Taking up space)

    • AKA Ally Performance / Ally Theater / White Knighting

    • The conspicuous expression of moral values done primarily with the intent of enhancing one’s own standing within a social group

    • Remember that impact matters; not intention

    • Self-licensing

      • When our perceived goodness makes us more likely to act immorally

      • “Wokeness creating the conditions for ignorance”

  • Emotional labor

    • The responsibility for managing feelings and conversations in a relationship

    • The work of educating other people about your oppression

  • Gaslighting

    • Acting as if a person’s experiences didn’t happen. (“Are you sure you’re not just being overly sensitive?”)


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